3 Things I’m leaving behind
What’s up? How are you?
Today I have for you a blog post with a few things I’d like to leave behind this year. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. I included some affirmations to say to yourself for each one to help you get started.
1. NOT TRUSTING MYSELF
Trusting yourself to make the right decisions takes self-discipline. When it comes to making choices, the universe also has a way of helping. This has everything to do with the sensation you feel in your body. At the moment you constantly have to make a decision, you’ll either feel comfort or discomfort. How you feel can resonate with whether something is the right choice for you or not.
“When presented with a decision I will look to my heart for guidance. I will be aware in my reaction and move forward with an appropriate choice based on a feeling of comfort or discomfort. I will trust myself to do what’s best for me and know that the outcome will be for me.”
2. NOT UPHOLDING MY BOUNDARIES FOR THE COMFORT OF OTHERS
My last relationship and previous friendships lead me to realize that I was a very fearful person. Scared to lose the people I had or that I wasn’t enough to make someone treat me how I treated them. I couldn’t trust myself to choose me in a situation that mattered because I loved others more than I loved myself. I learned that I had to stop de-prioritizing myself as an act of unconditional love and to not give my power or self-respect away to avoid being alone. Being alone can be hard yes, but it is never a reason to go running back or fall into old habits/patterns.
I was unhappy and not doing well financially or spiritually. Honestly, I wasn’t myself at all. I was who I became based on how people were treating me. I wasn’t upholding boundaries and never stood up for myself. Now… with everything that I had to go through and learn, I’m a completely different person. I don’t rely on anyone or anything for my happiness. I had to become much more stronger-minded.
“I will stop excusing mistreatment and dysfunctional behavior by saying that’s just how they are. I will know that if something/someone has no consideration for my growth to let it go.”
3. NOT WRITING A GRATITUDE LIST EVERY DAY
I recently purchased The Five Minute Journal created by Alex Ikonn and UJ Ramdas. Today I completed my fifth day using the journal. The first few pages talk about why it is important to write down what you are grateful for each day. I knew the importance of a gratitude list, but I never knew studies behind how it effects our mentality to the fullest. I was hesitant to buy this at first because it was easy for me to just write my own thankfulness in the journal I was already using most days.
Let me tell you though… I’m so glad I bought this one because in just a few pages it has taught me that when going about my day-to-day life, I will start to recognize the things I am grateful for more often. So, I take the same way home every day from work meaning that I pretty much see the same scenery and surroundings each day. As I was driving home the other day, I noticed a nice neighborhood with beautiful houses that inspired me to work really hard. It was one that I hadn’t seen before. I thought to myself, “Hmm, I wonder how I didn’t see this before.” Then I thought that this would be a great thing to write in my Five Minute Journal. I wrote, I am so grateful for seeing something new and different on my ordinary drive home from work today.
That is just one example, but the point is that all of these things I am writing down in my list of gratitude are things I continue to realize and say aloud how thankful for them that I am each time they are presented in my life again. It reminds us to appreciate what we have and improves our happiness so much.
A journal can hold many purposes and one of the most significant things that have helped me improve my mood and redirect my negative thoughts was this technique. Every morning and every evening I reflect on what I experienced and I reread what I had written to be thankful for. Consistency is key and I learned that not recognizing all that I have to be happy about was something I needed to leave behind.
Before you go…
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- Anna
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